Some thoughts on marriage
It’s amazing that something like a movie can be so thought provoking. Some friends of ours, an older couple in their early 40’s, kept talking about the movie “The Notebook,” so last night we watched it. It’s a little slow and a little sappy, but the story was absolutely amazing.
It made me realize how very much I love my husband. Of course I’ve always loved him, but last night I remembered all the reasons WHY. I remembered how hard we fought to be together and how we never gave up on what we have.
Some friends of ours are going through a divorce right now and I’m finding it hard not to judge them. It’s hard to understand why marriages go bad. But I’m trying to see the other side of things. Jim and I have such open lines of communication, maybe they don’t? Maybe our marriage works because we’re both still trying to make it work. Maybe marriages fail when one or both people just give up? A working marriage is never something that just happens, it’s something that’s made to happen.
It just solidifies in my mind what I’ve always known in my heart, that I’m never going to let go of this.
This is the part of the movie that says it so well for me.
Well that’s what we do, we fight… You tell me when I am being an arrogant son of a bitch and I tell you when you are a pain in the ass. Which you are, 99% of the time. I’m not afraid to hurt your feelings. You have like a 2 second rebound rate, then you’re back doing the next pain-in-the-ass thing.So what?
So it’s not gonna be easy. It’s gonna be really hard. We’re gonna have to work at this every day, but I want to do that because I want you. I want all of you, for ever, you and me, every day.
I know that this has all been pretty mushy, but I wanted to write it down while I had some clarity in my mind on the subject. I want to have this to look back on when Jim is being arrogant or I’m being a pain in the ass. *wink* It’s good to keep written down the things in life that matter most.
Category: marriage 6 comments »
June 20th, 2005 at 9:57 am
Yep, I’m a “not letting go of this” person too! And it is good to keep the stuff written down-if not only for your sake, but maybe for the sake of some other down on their luck soul, who might find encouragement in your words. Good stuff, sister…
June 20th, 2005 at 11:58 am
Good for you! That is an awesome movie in fact now I wan’t to watch it again. Marriage does take work. All the time. Some times you wan’t to give up. But we keep on keepin on! I love remembering the excitement of when we first got together and all the reasons why we love each other. Besides our parents told us we weren’t allowed to get divorced! I don’t think it’s really an option for us. I knew when we met God had special plans for us. He brought us together. We’re very blessed and I’m not willing to give that up;0)
June 20th, 2005 at 12:16 pm
Here, here! I couldn’t have said it better myself (and I totally have been wanting to see that movie) Even more now!
June 20th, 2005 at 2:02 pm
Honesty and respect and a sense of humor. That’s a pretty good recipe, but there have to be two commited cooks, huh!?
June 20th, 2005 at 3:28 pm
Hey, on your herringbone scarf (no, I haven’t tried knitting it yet), how do you end up keeping the same number of stitches on the needles if you slip half of them off every row?
June 21st, 2005 at 8:05 am
I liked that line too. The story was really sweet.